Sunday, February 6, 2011

The Five Love Languages

The Five Love Languages: How To Express Heartfelt Commitment To Your Mate By Dr. Gary Chapman.Several years ago I was involved in a church small group and we read The Five Love Languages. I have
since lent this book to countless people, but have forgotten what it meant to me to begin with and how it influenced my thoughts and actions. I really like that book because Dr. Chapman talks about the 5 types of love languages and then gives you ways to help you better yours to others and ways to help you communicate with those who have a love language diferent than your own.
I've taken the quiz again and you can too!
5 Love Language Quiz

Here are the love languages according to Chapman:

Words of Affirmation
Actions speak louder than words.

Quality Time
Giving someone your undivided attention.

Receiving Gifts
Everyday gestures and little gifts mean so much.

Acts of Service
Feel loved through the actions of others.

Physical Touch
Literal physical presence, acts of affection and availability.

This is me:
Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

This is my husband:
Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important–hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

While some of the stories are cheesy I remember feeling that I did really understand where Dr. Chapman was coming from because of the examples he gave and the fact that if you aren't communicating your needs to someone or translating what someone else is saying in their way of loving, you are missing out on the best parts of a relationship. I really enjoyed this study and think I need to read the book again...as soon as I get it back from who borrowed it!

1 comment:

  1. I read this series for children & really liked it.

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