Examples of when 'helpful' parenting turns into helicopter parenting...some of these are from my own experiences as a teacher:
When a parent...
1] stays home from work to do their kids homework. How can you tell the parent did it? The references for the paper are all college education books that the student, when you ask point blank questions, has no idea what you are talking about.
2] calls you on your cellphone (when you didn't give them your #) at 10.30p to talk about the extra credit work you assigned so their kid can have an A- instead of a B+.
3] a kid turns in said extra credit late and the parent doesn't understand why the teacher won't accept it and then doesn't understand why the principal doesn't make the teacher accept it.
What can you, as a parent, do to make sure you aren't hovering?
How to be a helpful parent (the opposite of the dreaded 'Helicopter')
1] Work with your student and their teachers for a plan that best allows your student to grow at his or her full potential.
2] Schedule times to meet or talk. Most teachers don't even mind if you sit in on their classes, as long as you call or email your intentions.
3] Trust that the teacher knows what he or she is doing. When you feel that a teacher is bullying your child talk to them first, be honest and be up front, however, realize that the teacher will still want your student to turn in work on time, be respectful in the classroom and to reach his or her full potential.
Five Words that even the Summer Couldn't Help Me Forget
(a post I wrote about more edu-words)